There has always been debate about the ritual of marriage, the value of traditional marriage, and the need to return to the old institution of marriage, i.e., we married young, we married for life, wife raised the kids, and we stay married until we died. I call this the “Leave It To Beaver Marital Blueprint.” What has this model proven? A better than 50% failure (that means divorce) rate. Statistics demonstrate that the old model isn’t the most successful or realistic model. In fact, there seems to be a new formula for marriage success.
The college-educated middle class that embraced the sexual revolution is now leading the way back into marriage. And this group has more stable families because of the combination of two qualities hard for everyone else to find. The first is a flexible approach to family roles. Men who help with the children and women with six-figure incomes are very much in demand. The second is good jobs: Over the last 30 years, the number of men with stable employment has stayed even with women only at the top. The result is remaking the definition of domestic success.
In an article entitled The Marrying Kind: How Class Shapes Our Search For A Soulmate, Huffington Post columnists June Carbone and Naomi Cahn explore the new norm in picking a spouse, and how new mores may be producing more stable, longer lasting marriages.
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