Going through a divorce is awful. The anxiety starts from the moment you realize you are in the process. For many people the next step is to seek out the advice and counsel of a divorce lawyer. Even that process, although designed to help you, can be hugely stressful. The National Law Review has posted a great article from attorney Corrine Cook that should reduce some of the initial consultation anxiety.
At an initial consultation, you should be prepared to discuss the circumstances of your case. This part of the process is simply a conversation between you and a potential attorney. You should be the one doing the majority of the talking at the initial consultation, and the attorney should be listening to you, and taking notes. The attorney will also be asking you questions to make sure they have all of the necessary information about your circumstances.
The attorney will first need to gather your basic contact information, such as your cell phone number, home address and email address, as well as background information, such as your date of marriage, the names and ages of children, both spouses’ employment information, and incomes, assets and liabilities. Your assets include accounts, retirement accounts, vehicles, stocks or bonds, collections, etc., while your liabilities would include mortgages, credit card debt, student loans, etc. You should be prepared to discuss these issues and have knowledge of approximate account balances and income information. The attorney will also ask whether you had a prenuptial agreement, whether either party had any premarital assets and whether either party received an inheritance during the marriage.
Here is what I think is the most important information in the article:
Most importantly, you should feel comfortable with your attorney and share a common view toward your case. It is absolutely necessary that you and your attorney are on the same page with respect to your goals of the divorce case. Your attorney should be honest and frank with you regarding your chances of realistically obtaining your goals, as unrealistic expectations are one of the main reasons for protracted divorce litigation.
Here is the other bit of advice that I would offer. The lawyer you are meeting with will likely tell you things that you don’t want to hear. That is her job. Practicing family law is not a Yes business! Often times we have to deliver bad news. Don’t get upset and attack the lawyer for doing his job.
This is a very helpful article as folks get ready to consult with a divorce lawyer. Please click here to check out the entire post.